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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful.
Great For Reconnecting
My therapist recommended the Ungame when I confessed that I felt my husband and I were drifting apart on so many levels. I felt he had been happy, while I had been miserable, and the utter monotony of marriage and the taking for granted that comes with it was beginning to make me understand why so many couples don't "make it" anymore. I bought the Ungame and told my husband about it and he agreed to participate, so we sat and played out own version figuring we would only do a few of the cards just to see what it's about, but we not only played most of the deck, but spent a couple of hours reconnecting and learning about each other (who knew that after almost 18 years of marriage we didn't know it all) and laughing and tearing up. It was wonderful. I also learned that he had been feeling disconnected like I had and I had no idea.
We have played a couple times since then. The Ungame is a great icebreaker when one or both of you want to address something missing in your marriage/relationship, but aren't sure how to start or you just want to sit and relate to one another and reconnect as couples NEED to do on occasion (yeah it sounds "hippie", but it was really nice). If anything it's an excuse to make time for one another.
12 of 12 people found the following review helpful.
This game changed my life.
My fiancé and I started playing this game just a week after our first date … we wanted to get to know each other on a deeper level. Both of us had spent years dating great people but came to realize that they weren't "the right one." I wanted to find my soulmate and so did he. This game is amazing because the questions help you to discover who that person is, what makes them tick, what makes them angry - and how they act when they're angry, If/how their parents showed affection, how they were disciplined…etc. I realize that people can gain this kind of understanding for their boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife without this game. However, in my dating experience, it's taken years to achieve the kind of deep understanding that this game fosters in a matter of weeks. I'd imagine that asking someone these questions would be awkward if you weren't playing the game. But since it's the point of the game for both people to answer personal questions, it takes the awkwardness out of it and makes it fun to open up to each other. I highly recommend this game if you don't want to "waste" years of your life dating the wrong person. Speaking IMHO, it's better to know early on if we differ on how to raise children, how to spend money, how to celebrate holidays, etc. I could also see this game working wonders on your relationship even if you're already married because a rule in the game is that you can't speak unless it's your turn. Truly listening and feeling like you're being listened to is vital to successful communication, and when you can communicate effectively, you are able to see past differences and understand the another's heart. Even something as simple as asking each other a question from one card while getting ready for work in the morning can keep the communication lines open and strengthen any relationship.
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Definitely Consider This For Improving Comminication
Great conversation topics! I am interested in looking at the rest of the series after having tried this one.
There's lots to work with and while you might just pull out the cards and start playing here or there, I found its best to play in the car while driving around OR good for you to just read a card or two on your own and then use them as conversation starters when you're wanting to have a "deep" conversation with your partner.
The game is only as cheesy as you'll make it, but as one who was skeptical purchasing this thinking it would be too cheesy, it ended up feeling much more natural than I though to "play" and I loved the large variety of topics addressed.